I am a mom to two boys, ages 7 and 3. I am a part time SAHM and also work pt outside of the home. You can find out more about us at www.justsayin-kim.blogspot.com

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Finding Time for Me

Somehow I got to thinking back to when I was a young, new mom and all I really craved was friends.  My ‘old’ pre-marriage, pre-baby friends were still there but not on the same page as me.  I was concerned with which car seat was the safest and they were wanting to check out the latest club in Harrisburg.

Needless to say I was lonely with a capital L.

I know there are more moms out there in the same position so I’ve tried to put together a few ideas  of ways to get out there and meet some new people.  It’s hard, I know, and something I still struggle with.

Currently I am a part of a MOPS group.  This group by far is the thing that has helped me the most since becoming a mother.   MOPS stands for Mothers of Preschoolers.  It is a Christian based moms group.  Our group holds twice monthly meetings. It is such an amazing group & honestly I don’t know what I would have done without them the past 5 years.  Don’t let the religious aspect scare you away because it’s not something that is forced down your throat and you don’t have to be a Christian to be a part of the group.   We have speakers, play games, crafts and socialize with other moms while our children are in their own program called MOPPETS.  They have snack, play games and do crafts as well as make new friends.  If it sounds like something you might be interested in check out the above link and look for a group near you.

My oldest and I used to always check out the library.   They always have some great programs going on at any of the local york library branches.  From baby story times to teen and adult book clubs.  Some even have learn to knit/crochet nights.   Check out the event page of your local branch to find what local activities they have coming up.  Don’t forget to register for their summer reading club.  My sons and I had a blast last year participating in the program!

Another is meetup.com.   They have pretty much any kind of group you could be looking for.  From playgroups to ballroom dancing groups and everything in between.  There were a few great playgroups Logan and I had tried out when he was younger.  I wished we could have continued on with them but my work schedule just wouldn’t allow it.

If you have a hobby, try to build some friendships from that.  Before Logan was born I wanted to learn to knit in the worst way.  So I dug out the phonebook and found a yarn shop and dropped by to learn how.  Eventually I found a local knitting group, now I meet up with them once a week to de-stress and work on my latest project.  I have to say my friendships made from knitting have become some of my best.  They are women that I probably wouldn’t have crossed paths with any other way.  And they are MY friends, they aren’t my sons’ friends or friends of mine because I’m Logan or Cole’s MOM.  They are my friends because I’m Kim and I like to play with sticks and string.  Wanna learn to knit or crochet?  Here are a few other local yarn shops as well.

Finally, all I can say is just get out there.  If you see another mom struggling in the grocery store or at the mall, talk to her.  Maybe you’ll hit it off maybe you won’t.  You won’t know if you don’t try!

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  1. bekah 01/25/2011 at 12:44 pm

    So so very true. I barely breathed if it wasnt for Jack at first, and not that that is a bad thing, but it was not healthy for me, or my marriage! It took me a while to find some balance, but I am a better mommy for it!